How Much Time Does A Former Wife Give To Her New Relationship? Note: she's also a mother

This one's like a very personal journal entry so there's a paywall to discourage looky loos; ie drivers who slow down to stare at the car crash. I only want readers who are ALSO IN THE CRASH WITH ME

Let’s do some math. If you have your child roughly every other four days that means you have four days (and nights) without them. If you want one night to be able to go out with a friend and one night to yourself (that night being one of the goals of getting divorced) that leaves two nights for your girlfriend. Is that enough? It is for me but then I’ve also really soared in romantic relationships that were 98 percent iN mY hEad, fantasy. Hard to tell if I’m living the dream or if I’m living IN a dream; my life is suffused with the knowledge that I have a girlfriend, a built-in dreamy vacation. And that vacation is itself drenched with freedom because the relationship is technically open (not a lot of acting on that, but still thrilling and new to me). Does this sound awesome to you or psychotically avoidant? And if it sounds awesome, are by any chance a MOM?